Kamau, the first son of Richard and Rethia, was named after his paternal grandfather Jack Nickerson. I’ve heard many stories that have led me to believe that Mr. Jack Nickerson was a kind gentleman who was always at the ready to make everyone feel special. I reflect often on the fact that Kamau lives up to his namesake quite naturally.
When Kamau and I painstakingly conferred on the name of our son we had several criteria for the first name, but none for the middle name. From time to time, our families gave suggestions on the first name, because they understood what a labor of love it had become for us. We often heard from both sides, “just name that boy Jack” or “Jack should stay in our family’s name. We deliberately considered every suggestion given to us, but none of them seemed to stick.
One night, Kamau had to take care of a matter for an extended family member in the very wee hours of the morning. Quite the chivalrous act actually, and I began to reflect on our fathers and the things that they do for us. The sacrifices that they made and continue to make, the things that they do that go unknown, their consistent and unmistakable natures that let you know what they will and will not accept and how those natures have shaped our characters. It wasn’t on this night that we first contemplated naming our first born after our fathers, but this night, something clicked and I decided that we had to make a combination of their two names work.
Axum’s maternal grandfather’s name is Roy and his paternal grandfather’s given name is Richard Lee. Deciding to work with Roy and Lee, I kept saying those two names until Raleigh popped up. My heart literally fluttered and I sent Kamau a short message on his cell phone. “…Roy + Lee = Raleigh. He immediately called back and said “I like it!!”
The last test was to research what Raleigh meant, it was made famous from a man’s chivalrous act on behalf of a queen. How apropos, I thought. Hence, our son’s middle name… Raleigh.
Roy + Lee = Raleigh